Address: Never sell your soul给毕业生的人生忠告：千万不要贩卖你的灵魂 5月7日，惠普公司前CEO卡莉-费奥瑞娜在美国北卡罗来纳州农业技术州立大学毕业典礼上发表演讲。这是卡莉被惠普董事会“驱逐”后，首次在公开场合露面。在讲演中，卡莉说，回想起在惠普的5年，自己没有丝毫的后悔，她现在的心境非常“宁静安稳”。50岁的卡莉幽默的表示，她现在开始重新准备简历，等待面试的机会。在这场题为“你的天分是上帝馈赠的，你的成就是对上帝的回报”的讲演中，卡莉同时也谆谆告诫即将走入社会的毕业生，“不要放弃你的内在本性，千万不要贩卖你的灵魂，因为没有人能够支付得起”。 以下为卡莉讲演全文。 Thank you， Chancellor1， exercises of North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University.
your years at North Carolina A&T. But all of you should know: as Mother's Day gifts go， this one is going to be tough to beat in the years ahead.
speaker is to dispense2 wisdom. But the older I get， from my mother and my father. Before we go any further， let's hear it one more time for your mothers and mother figures， fathers and father figures， family， and friends in the audience today.
When I first received the invitation to speak here， I was the CEO of an $ with 145，000 employees in 178 that hired its fair share of graduates from North Carolina A&T. You could always tell who they were. For some reason， they were the ones that had stickers on their desks that read， "Beat the Eagles."
But as you may have heard， I don't have that job anymore. After the news of my departure broke， I called the school， speaker?
Chancellor Renick put my fears to rest. He said， "Carly， if anything， with these students now than you did before." And he's right. After all， I've been working on my resume. I've been lining3 up my references. I bought a new interview suit. If there are any recruiters here， I'll be free around 11.
I want to thank you for having me anyway. This is the first this school has always been set apart by something that I've believed very deeply; something that takes me back to the earliest memories I have in life.
One day at church， my mother gave me a small coaster with a saying on it. During my entire childhood， I kept this saying in front of me on a small desk in my room. In fact， I can still show you that coaster today. It says: "What you are is God's gift to you. What you make of yourself is your gift to God."
Those words have had a huge impact on me to this day. What this school and I believe in very deeply is that when we think about our lives， we shouldn't be limited by other people's stereotypes4 or bigotry5. Instead， we should be motivated by our own sense of possibility. We should be motivated by our own sense of 6;;; on limitations.
The question for all of you today is: how will you define what you make of yourself?
To me， what you make of yourself is actually two questions. There's the "you" that people see on the outside. And that's how most people will judge you， it's all they can see ? in life， whether you were made President of this， or CEO of that， the visible you.
But then， there's the invisible you， the "you" on the inside. That's the person that only you and God can see. For 25 years， when people have asked me for career advice， what I always tell them is don't give up what you have inside. Never sell your soul? no one can ever pay you back.
What I mean by not selling your soul is don't be someone you're not， don't be less than you are， don't give up what you believe， whatever the consequences that may seem scary or bad -- whatever the consequences of staying true to yourself are -- they are much better than the consequences of selling your soul.
You have been tested mightily7 in your life to get to this moment， you will be tested. You will be tested you won't fit some people's pre-conceived notions or stereotypes of what you're supposed to be， of who you're supposed to be. People will have stereotypes of what you can or can't do， of what you will or won't do， of what you should or shouldn't do. But they only have power over you if you let them have power over you. They can only have control if you let them have control， if you give up what's inside.
I speak from experience. I've been there. I've been there， in admittedly vastly different ways -- and in many ways， in the fears in my heart， exactly the same places. The truth is I've struggled to have that sense of control since the day I left college.
I was afraid the day I graduated from college. I was afraid of what people would think. Afraid I couldn't measure up. I was afraid of making the wrong choices. I was afraid of disappointing the people who had worked so hard to send me to college.
I had graduated with a degree in medie or 12th Century European monks8， I was your person. But that job market wasn't very strong.
So， I was planning to go to law school， not it was a lifelong dream ?because I thought it was expected of me. I realized that I could never be the artist my mother was， so I would try to be the lawyer my father was. So， I went off to law school. For the first three months， I barely slept. I had a blinding headache every day. And I can tell you exactly which shower tile I was looking at in my parent's bathroom on a trip home when it hit me like a lightning bolt. This is my life. I can do what I want. I have control. I walked downstairs and said， "I quit."
I will give my parents credit in some ways. That was 1976. They could have said， "Oh well， you can get married." Instead， they said， "We're worried that you'll never amount to anything." It took me a while to prove them wrong. My first job was working for a brokerage firm. I had a title. It was not "VP." It was "receptionist." I answered phones， I typed， I filed. I did that for a year. And then， I went and lived in Italy， I liked the pragmatism of it; the pace of it. Even though it hadn't been my goal，
I like big challenges， and the career path I chose for myself at the beginning was in one of the most male-dominated professions in America. I went to work for AT&T. It didn't take me long to realize that there were many people there who didn't have my best interests at heart.
I began my career as a first level sales person within AT&T's long lines department. Now， "long lines"， to refer to the management team at AT&T as the "42 longs" ?which was their suit size， and all those suits ?and faces ?looked the same.
the first time my boss at the time introduced me to a client. With a straight face， he said "this is Carly Fiorina， our token bimbo." I laughed， I did my best to dazzle the client， and then I went to the boss when the meeting was over and said， "You will never do that to me again."
In those early days， I was put in a pr up-or-out program， and I was thrown into the middle of a group of all male sales managers who had been there quite a long time， to town and we had decided9
， one of my male colleagues came to me and said， "You know， Carly， I'm really sorry. I know we've had this planned for a long time， has a favorite restaurant here in Washington， D.C.， and they really want to go to that restaurant， wants，;
"Why is that?" I asked. Well， the restaurant was called the Board Room. Now， the Board Room back then was a restaurant on Vermont Avenue in Washington， D.C.， and it was a strip club. In fact， it was famous the young women who worked there would wear these completely see-through baby doll negligees， and they would dance on top of the tables while the patrons ate lunch.
wanted to go there， and so my male colleagues were going there. So I thought about it for about two hours. I remember sitting in the ladies room thinking， "Oh God， what am I going to do? And finally I came back and said， "You know，， to lunch anyway."
Now， I have to tell you I was scared to death. So the morning arrived when I had to go to the Board Room and meet my client，